Ready for Marriage?

hmm, imaging for wedding cake :) lets become fat! lol :p

For me, marriage on young age is 'thing' (read: sesuatu :p ) Now, I am 21 years old and this passion come bigger and bigger, but... sorry guys, this time without galau! Hahaha~ (laugh so loud deh if i remember my pinky-high-school life itu) Well, it does'nt mean I was the queen of galau on pinky world! Ago, ago.. i really like to wrote about pinky things on novel, short story, and poetry. Just like teenager. But, dont ask me, "am I in love..?" coz firmly I'll answer "NO!" Although, no body tell me the rules about relationship boys-girls in Islam, but since I was Junior High School, I believ there is no relationship before marriage. And, I believe there are many people who have a same view like me (^^v) Well, exactly this is not my point. The point is.. marriage life style! This Ramadhan I learn little bit about this! And, I want to share you. To make it easy, I'll make it point by point~

1. Marriage not only about two couple, but..

Also make relation between two big family! Its mean we also 'have affair' with :

different: individual, character, past, passion, problems, habits, and hope

so, be ready for this 'culture shock' :)

2. Marriage is just like a coin, who...

have two different side! Its mean there is no 'only happy'

but also bring 'sad scene', rite?

And, people also just like a coin, on one side maybe we can laugh

but another side maybe she/he make you cry loud!

(moreover, if you make relation before marriage, maybe when you marriage

with him/her you'll shock! why?

because she/he using 'mask-personality')

its mean, no body perfect, and there is no marriage without test-challenge-problem!

(what ever word you want to take :p )

all choice is -still- yours!

3. Marriage will change you, coz...

you life with someone who -maybe- have different believe-value-knowledge (or situation)

and you life with her/him for a long time, so that's will also 'work on' you!

it'll be great if the value is positive, but what if that's negative?

so, you need to make your iman strong!

and make true love not only between you and your couple,

but also with your new big family + social of course!

 Well, this all the point I get.

No matter what, marriage must be all girls dreams! Just like me!

But, not all girls ready to prepare for this.

And I hope we can be a part of care's people.

So, what exactly we should do?

The First prepare -and one only- is Iqro / Read

Not only reading about how to make great marriage,

what you/she/he should do and dont

how to care for and educate your child

make your marriage harmonist and happy.

but, first you need to read about your self

what you want to get from your marriage..?

what's your couple characteristic?

are you ready or need enough?

pretty sure..?!

biologist, psychic, knowledge, financial, habit and dien?

also ready to get the risk and the opportunity?

if yes, the last thing is action! :)

~*syafiyah*~

[16.08.12]

hope we can find mr./ms.right, lillahita'ala~

“Wahai sekalian manusia, sesungguhnya Kami menciptakan kalian dari laki-laki dan perempuan dan Kami jadikan kalian bersuku-suku dan berkabilah-kabilah agar kalian saling mengenal. Sesungguhnya orang yang paling mulia di antara kalian di sisi Allah adalah yang paling bertakwa.” (Al Hujurat: 13)

“Orang-orang beriman itu adalah bersaudara.” (Al Hujurat: 10)

“Kaum mukminin dan kaum mukminat sebagian mereka adalah wali bagi sebagian yang lain.”

(At Taubah: 71)

“Wanita-wanita yang baik adalah untuk laki-laki yang baik dan laki-laki yang baik adalah untuk wanita-wanita yang baik…” (An Nur: 26)

Kemudian beliau lanjutkan dengan beberapa hadits, di antaranya :

“Tidak ada keutamaan orang Arab dibanding orang ajam (non Arab) dan tidak ada keutamaan orang ajam dibanding orang Arab. Tidak pula orang berkulit putih dibanding orang yang berkulit hitam dan sebaliknya orang kulit hitam dibanding orang kulit putih, kecuali dengan takwa. Manusia itu dari turunan Adam dan Adam itu diciptakan dari tanah.”